Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Let's Talk About Sex Vol 1: Bedroom Bully

Hotlipps said:



Whether you think it’s a myth or you think it’s true, Jamaican men have developed quite a bedroom reputation.  When thinking about Jamaican men songs like “Bedroom Bully” and “Stamina Daddy” come to mind.  Jamaican men have always boasted about their aggressive nature in the bedroom.  If you are a Jamaican woman, or one who has dealt predominantly with Jamaican men, you are probably used to the coercive and rough manner with which they approach sex.  My friends and I have even been known to joke about their techniques even labeling it as the “Hold dung and tek”, akin to rape.  Although rape is definitely no laughing matter, one can’t deny the similarities in their mannerisms.  To those of us who love the Jamaican man, this is something that we have become accustomed to.  It is almost as if it is a game or sport to them.  Their mission is to maintain an endurance and stamina second to none.   Women, who have experience with other nationalities, often can’t understand the allure of a Jamaican man, as some find sex with them barbaric, routine and in some cases downright unpleasurable. 
                The Jamaican man’s sexual persona has become such an important part of our culture, that songs over the years have repeatedly been made addressing it.  Buju Banton’s song “Gal Fi Beg” is one that stands out in my mind.  Banton brazenly talks about using any position necessary to make a woman bawl out in pain.  More recently artistes like Aidonia have adapted this style in songs like “In Her Belly” and “Grab Har Nuh” to name a few.  One of my favorite Aidonia lines this year talks about knocking the cologne bottles off the dresser during sex.  Oh my, the imagery lol.  The sexually aggressive nature has even given birth to a popular dancing style known as Daggering which mimic rough sex.
In an effort to maintain their “Bedroom Bully” image, there have been many products that have been used over the years, as well as new products that have hit the market boasting about giving a man more stamina.  So many concoctions have been used.  Again whether you believe they work is a different story.  Men have been drinking Irish Moss, Guinness stout, baba roots, Stone Ginger Wine and the infamous “Peanut Punch” Fabby Dolly sang about back in 1995. More recently we’ve seen the advent of Magnum, Jagra, Front End Lifter etc. In addition to beverages and concoctions, some men rely on topical agents like ‘Chiney Brush’ and ‘Stone’ which Powerman threatened,  “if a gal waan dead tell her fi come inna mi bed” lol.  All in all the Jamaican man’s sexual prowess is arguably one of the most notorious in the Caribbean, if not the world.  Some have been blessed with the natural ability, and others use enhancements and supplements.  The competition is stiff, pardon the pun, but in my opinion Jamaican men continue to lead by a mile.  ‘Til next time Smooches!
Mishigan from RBZ said:

Alrite... This is an Interesting Topic. Firstly... I have to differ to my partner hotlipps on what she's saying as she would be the resident expert on this subject. I can only speak as a representative of the Man dem. It is true that Jamaican Men have always sought to be dominant in the bedroom... But I'm hoping its not only us... All men should think the same way. Ladies... Be truthful. Unnu don't want a man that's soft in bed!!! Of course there are exceptions to every rule but most ladies, ESPECIALLY West Indian ladies, don't really respect di softee softee petting pampering ting all the while. Now let's be clear... There is a time to be nice gentle with your woman and give it to her easy... But women don't want that the majority of the time. Women love the excitement and the madness that come with the roughness. 

Now admittedly, there is no music I've heard that has as much songs dealing with Rough Sex as Dancehall music. Yes we can all name a few songs from every other genres... But none of them are as prominent as "Jack it Up", "Position", "Back Shot" "Tek Buddy" "Gal Splurt", "Well Done" just to name a few. And the women are requesting it. Songs like "Stab Out Mi Meat" "Real Badman Know fi Wuk Gyal" & "Rampin Shop" feature female artists requesting the brutality. 

Since we're all adults we can speak plainly. Everyone knows that the most common single word request that every woman has while in the act is "Harder!!!" Not only do women want it harder... They want it for a long time... So we must aim to please. Every man knows what may work for him. Whether its the Guiness, Tiger Bone, Peanut Punch w/ Oats or the use of Stone or Chiney Brush... Its all in the interest of both satisfying the women and maintaining our own status. 

Now when this topic was presented I did my own little research and asked a bunch of different women and they all agreed that of all the men they dealt with, the Jamaican man is the most aggressive & rough. This leads me to a question though... Are Jamaican Men rougher & more aggressive to satisfy the needs of our Jamaican women... Because let's face it... Unnu 

Well... Whatever the case is... Mi nah dash weh my blenda!!! As long as woman love a challenge... We will be there to Rise To the Occasion!!! Pun Intended. 

RRRRRRRR

14 comments:

  1. I agree with both sides. Great job as usual :-) Mek mi put in my 2 cents *sips magnum*. I'm a bedroom bully!!! My theme song is Macka Diamond-Yu dun already?! (thriller riddim). I am an example that jamaican women want it rough. Don't come with no boring weak sex or I will laugh at you. I agree that jamaican men are known for being rough but not all fit that stereotype well. I love to have a good time in the bedroom but in the streets I'm dainty as ever *bats eyelashes*.

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  2. Kmt. Wonder Weh mi first post gone. But anyway, man a long distance stulla. Mi nuh feed pon bulla. But we do it all for the ladies. So it should be a admirable quality for every man to have. As a yaud man we have the reputation to uphold. I may not need the use of any scientific help. But consider the pressure to perform everytime we meet a woman? Sure I enjoy having that rep, but it's hard more times. Lol. No woman nuh want no sauf man inna bed. Dem love it when dem get manhandle. Sure there's a time fi slow wine n kissing n such, but more times Di woman dem want hundred stab thousand jook. And say that mi gone cook up some peanut porridge. Stamina daddy! Dwrcl

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  3. The Few Jamaican Women I've Been With. Lived Up To The "Bedroom Bully" Thing,Their Sex Drive Was High. But No Matter Where Your From Men & Women All Over The World Feel That Their King Or Queen Of The Bedroom.

    ShaBoogie

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  4. JA man dem haffi realize that Shabba was talkin the truth. IT CYAAN DUN!!! You can't kill punany so I don't know why they have to brutalize the gyal pickney everytime! True, there is a time when you want it a little rough, like...in your 20's!! But as an older adult with children, and a job you have to wake up at 6:30 for, a 3hr stretch with flipping around and multiple position changes is a little excessive! Not to mention that the attempt to "shift the womb" is just torturous!
    Then there are the one's that talk a good game...you know the saying about the empty barrel...bear disappointment! LOL!
    Anyway, this was a good topic. I just hope the guys are paying close attention because you are making the GYNs rich!!!

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  5. NurseGlam I agree with you when you say it can't done, but I love it ruff and I love to be in control most of the times. A little bullying won't hurt you lol true story !!

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  6. LMAO @ NurseGlamr. My girl say shi have har wuk fi go 6:30 so shi cyaa bodda wid di sawka sawka. I can't. I hear that! Mi nuh inna di all nite business neither. LOL. Great entry guys. Keep em coming.

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  7. Hotlipps u know me haffi jump in pon dis one!I love it ruff! Me cyaan bada wid di "love making" dats why me love Jamaican man!
    P.S. Don't 4get 12/16 @ Clippers! :)

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  9. We Caribbean love gud wuk passionate wuk if we noh change position and buss ah sweat it naw dun.....
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  10. We Caribbean love gud wuk passionate wuk if we noh change position and buss ah sweat it naw dun.....
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  11. Men are not supposed to hurt you, all that pin you down shit is unnecessary

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