Lets Talk About Sex Vol 5: Does Performing Oral Sex Mean Your Sex Game is Lacking??

Hotlipps Said:
"If you a f*ck mi gal f*ck mi good. Good pu$$y gal nuh haffi suck nuh hood". That's the opening line to Aidonia's song "From You can F*ck" on the Bed Squeek riddim. The song is tuff nah lie. But the song made me start analyzing things.

Isn't sex about making the experience as pleasurable as possible for you and your partner? If that includes oral stimulation, then so be it. If you're not into that then that's fine too. I know its just a song, but this mind set stems from the stigma. associated with oral sex in Jamaican culture. Jamaican men are so obsessed with getting their cocky sucked, yet in public, they will ostracize the same women who are doing it to them. Some of them even go as far as giving their bonafide woman bun with a girl who is skilled in the art of fellatio. That's why I say not every man deserves this special treat. Some men are so immature and don't know how to handle it, and abuse the privilege.

This is 2011 and nuff people are doing it. Some are vocal about it and nuff are doing it under the quiet. But if someone chooses in this day & age to engage in such activities why belittle or downgrade them. Especially when you would gladly want to reap the benefits of their talents. Oral sex is all about enhancing the experience. That doesn't necessarily mean that you're lacking in actual sexual abilities. I can vouch for the contrary. The guy I considered my all times best was great in bed and performed oral sex as well! Oh and he was Jamaican. :-)
So before judging someone merely because they engage in a single activity, look at your sex life and see what YOU can do to make YOUR sex life better. Cuz you just might lose your significant other to someone with a skilled tongue. And on that note, Smooches from Hotlipps!

Mishigan from RBZ said:
The recent Oral Fixation that has infiltrated Dancehall Culture over the last few years seems to have taken deeper root than expected. Traditionally, Oral Sex was something that has been ruled taboo by both men & women. Women bragged about not having to "suck" to keep their men & made fun of women who did. Although we all knew that it was going on behind closed doors, it was a sense of pride that Jamaicans & Dancehall Artists did not endorse the slackness that everyone else did. Things have definitely changed since "Dem Bow". Aidonia's new song "F#*k mi Good", although slack enough by today's standard, has caused a heated debate. And the question is... Why?! By traditional Dancehall Standards, the song is Correct. Hasn't the baddest woman in Dancehall since Sister Charmaine, Ms Marion Hall aka Lady Saw, been saying this for her entire career? Hasn't almost every male artist used this as a bragging right for women in their songs? What the hell happened?

First thing first; To Address Aidonia's Line in the song, He is Right. If a woman is well skilled with the Nookie, she doesn't have to use her mouth to KEEP her man. Now as a man I must also say that having them both is a wonderful thing. If the Nookie is good & you get good head along with it, the experience will be equivalent to the best birthday cake & icing that you can think of. So yes ladies, if you feel the need to give, then please do. But if a woman doesn't feel that she has to, should she be condemned because its 2011? Mi nuh know bout dat!!!
This debate exposes a deeper issue. Aidonia's line was not in any way a condemnation of women who like give head & who pride themselves on giving head. I'm sure that he loves those woman as much as any man... And we do love & appreciate you all!!! But the fact that so many people have picked up this argument is crazy. If a woman says she doesn't have to suck because har tings good... Does that make her a hypocrite if she does in fact suck? She's bragging about how good her sex game is without having to use head. She's not condemning its use. Since the song was released I've heard many people say... "Di song bad yes... But mi nuh know bout dat part deh..." Both men & women. It seems that since the flood gates have opened in favor of fellatio, neither men nor women want them to be closed again. That's fine & dandy but the problem with flood gates is when you leave them open you always get more than you planned for and its practically impossible to get it out when it comes through.
In conclusion... Ladies get well skilled with the Nookie. Its a must. Its a powerful muscle that has all kinds of wonderful features when used properly. If you choose to give head as a bonus... Mek sure the head game is Wicked... Anything you do... Do it to the best of your ability... And if you don't choose to give head... I still love you... It may be from afar... And you may not see me or hear that often... But just know that "Love is Always There".
Boom